Happy Mother’s Day
This isn’t your typical mother’s day blog entry. I stand in the position to never say that to my mother again. Every year this day comes along and I have only memories to dwell on and the thought of what, not only my life, but the lives of my children would be like if my mother was still alive. Every March my heart gets heavy as April 1 is the day she died and the rest of April leading up to Mother’s Day is always a hard time of the year. Don’t get me wrong, it gets easier and I have properly grieved for her and healed from the tragedy but it’s still hard to believe she’s gone.
I was once told by my Mother In-Law, of all people, that “Death is the only inevitable thing in life but it’s the only thing that no human can prepare themselves for.” How can the one thing in this life that’s so “For Sure” be so hard to “Accept”? I don’t have the answer for that. Another interesting quote that I think about from time to time was told to me by an old friend. It goes like this; “When we are born, we are the ones crying and everyone else is smiling, when we die, everyone else cries while we are the ones smiling.” I lean on that quote, knowing my Mother is in Heaven smiling, even though I may be crying.
I am no stranger to death like many others in this life. I have seen the passing of both of my grandpas, my mother, and most recently my grandma. I was sitting next to her when she passed. I’ve had plenty of time to think about death and why we hurt so much as the loved ones that are left behind. The answer to that is simple. God has put us on this Earth to love everyone as His Son once did. God is Love and he wired each and everyone of us to love. Love is what makes it hurt so much but in the bittersweetness of it all it’s a good thing. We grieve, we cry, we get mad even, but we loved and that’s the greatest thing we can do in life.
So with that being said, I recommend on this day and everyday and every chance you get to tell your mother just how much she means to you, even if it’s a simple “I Love You”. You’d be surprised how much that means to your mom. I remember my mother saying it to me everyday until she passed which at that time, 4 years ago, I was 28. Twenty eight years of saying it to me and me saying it back is something worth holding onto. So make this Mother’s Day something special and all the days after.
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